I’ve sort of been putting this off – writing Jack’s birth story – because well, it wasn’t ideal. But however it happened, Jack is healthy and that’s what matters. So here goes…
I started having painful contractions Saturday morning, March 24th. They were all over the place, some 5 minutes apart, some 20 minutes apart so I downloaded a contraction app on my phone to keep track. That’s pretty much all I did on Saturday since I couldn’t really think or focus on anything else. That night they got stronger and more predictable – about 7 minutes apart. Needless to say I got absolutely no sleep because every 7 minutes I was wincing in pain. I was hoping at some point they would become 5 minutes apart so I could go into the hospital but no such luck. Sunday morning rolled around and finally by the time D woke up, my contractions were 4-5 minutes apart. We decided to call the hospital and get our bags ready. I managed to take a shower and blow dry my hair (by a miracle!) Getting ready was actually more calm than I imagined it would be although thinking back D was a little more anxious than normal :). I was so focused on the contractions that I’m not really sure how all my stuff got packed haha.
We arrived at the hospital around 10am. I got into triage right away so they could check to see if I should be admitted. I was praying I was more than 1-2 centimeters dilated. Finally after what seemed like forever, the midwife checked me and said I was 4 centimeters dilated and that they could admit me. Yay! At this point my contractions were very painful but what helped was D breathing with me through each one. Another thing that really helped was the midwife pointing out that the more relaxed I could be through each contraction, the faster I would make progress. That was worth it to me so I tried to stay as relaxed as possible and thought I was doing pretty good considering how much it hurt! The midwife gave me the option to either get a room with a tub or go straight to get an epidural. At first I thought I would try the tub but after some really painful contractions and talking it over with my mom and D, I decided to go ahead with the epidural. Getting the actual epidural was definitely not as bad as I had read it was for some women so I was relieved about that! The midwife checked me again and this time my water broke. I had progressed to 7 cm! The nurse and midwife were thrilled with my progress and told me I would probably have a baby in my arms by 5:00pm!
Well 5:00 rolled around, I was checked again and was still 7 cm. I was disappointed but the midwife told me they would try a low dose of pitocin to help me make a little more progress. At this point, Jack was responding more to me laying on my right side than my left so they made me lay on my right for what seemed like forever. Because I was laying on my right side for so long, the epidural was wearing off on my left side and I was feeling the contractions on that side. I tried to sleep but I was so uncomfortable from laying on one side and was in too much pain to rest. The hours at this point seemed to drag on although I couldn’t tell you when what happened, it just seemed like I was waiting forever to make progress. They checked me again I think around 7 or 8pm and was still 7cm dilated. They upped the pitocin, kept me on my right side, and then discussed what we should do if I was still at 7 cm when they checked me again. I knew that a C-section was not out of the question but I prayed that I would be 8 or 9 cm next time she checked me. Around 10pm she checked me one last time, and again 7cm. Not only was I still 7cm, my cervix had swelled on top of that. I was definitely deflated at this point. The midwife told me it was time to start talking C-section. She bought in the OB team and they outlined the whole procedure to me. They made it clear it was my choice but I definitely didn’t feel it was anyone’s choice at that point. I just wanted to do what was best for Baby and the midwife and OB team recommended I go ahead with the C-section.
Once it was decided, it happened pretty fast. They wheeled me into the OR and the anesthesiologist started making adjustments to my epidural. There were tons of people whisking around but I was pretty focused on the fact that I could feel everything on my left side. I told the anesthesiologist that and he started testing how much I actually felt with a little pin. I was supposed to feel the pressure but not the prick. Well I felt the prick all the way down to my toes on my left side. He tried his best to make adjustments but I continued to feel his prick when he tested me. I was pretty scared at this point because I knew I was going to feel things I shouldn’t feel when they actually got started. They got Jack out pretty fast without too much pain on my part and I got to see his little scrunched face but I didn’t hear him crying. I asked someone why he wasn’t crying but didn’t get much of an answer. After more tugging and pulling, I started feeling burning. Through tears I told the anesthesiologist I was feeling intense burning. They ended up giving me laughing gas and morphine but I still felt the burning. D came back to be with me after seeing Jack and despite my best efforts I told D to tell them to put me out. It was just too much to bear.
When I woke up, it didn’t get much easier. I couldn’t breathe due to congestion and my throat being inflamed from the breathing tube. I tried to cough but because of my incision, it hurt too bad to cough. I ended up working through it by clearing my throat a million times. Then they brought me him. I told D I wanted his name to be Jack. I remember he was so alert and wanted to eat right away. I was amazed that it seemed like he knew me. It made my heart melt. After holding him for not very long, they took him back and D explained to me that Jack had a rough start. I found out that the reason I wasn’t hearing Jack cry in the OR was because his lungs were full of junk and the doctors thought he had a collapsed lung. They were about to transfer him to another hospital when he started coughing it up on his own. They wanted to keep Jack in the Level 2 nursery overnight to monitor him but they said he was going to be okay. I was so relieved. So thankful. Jack was healthy, I survived, and now D and I were parents! Praise God!
WOW! What a story!? God is so good! Being only 17 weeks pregnant, I can’t seem to get enough of birth stories. I’m always encouraged by the end of result of a healthy and happy mama and baby despite the tough journey many women face. Congratulations!
That had to be so scary for you! I’m really glad it all worked out and Jack is healthy. I’ve been reading your blog for awhile (I found you through those beautiful photos you took of your sister 🙂 ), but never commented before. I’m from Rochester too and thought it might be a little creepy. Anyway, I had my son Liam at Mayo with the midwives too! I’ve loved reading your story.
Wow – what a birth story! I’m glad he was/is okay! I had a c-section, but mine was scheduled because my son was breech. I love the name Jack. Always a classic. 🙂
I’m so glad to see that you and Jack are okay! It doesn’t always work as planned but modern medicine is amazing. When I had my first (almost 4 years ago) a boy, Brayden, I was similar to you. I was in labor for over 20 hours on pitocin and only got to 5 cm. We went into the OR for a c-section and I could feel that little pin the whole time and when they started I was in so much pain they knocked me out and I missed my son being born. I was so groggy when I woke up I didn’t even have the strength to hold him. Just remember that if you have a 2nd and schedule a C-section it’s a THOUSAND times easier!! My daughter was scheduled, I got to see her as soon as she was born and the pain was much much less than the first time! Congratulations on your bundle of joy!! He’s beautiful!
thank you for sharing this story. What a blessing you and Jack are okay. Congratulations! he is so handsome!
What a blessing that you are all OK and safe. Big hugs to you, Kelly. You are one brave Mama and Jack is so precious 🙂
Thanks for Sharing! your story sounds so much like mine with Samuel almost two years ago! time does fly by! wow! I remember swelling up was so disheartning! it was so great to hold him after a long wait!
Thank you for sharing your story. What a tough labor you had! Sorry you and Jack had such a rough start but the ending to your story made me smile. Congratulations on your adorable, healthy baby boy and I wish you a speedy recovery.
Congratulations and wishing a speedy recovery!
Blurg. You almost made me cry. I’m sorry it was so rough. Thank God you and baby Jack are ok. Big hug!
OMG! What a story. I had been praying for you. I had no idea It had been so hard. I’m happy you guys are doing well. thanks for sharing
Reading this just made me cry, This is so much like my birth history , I was 3 days in labor and after I opened 10cm I push for 3hrs and nothing so c-section it was and I had to sleep because I was feeling all the pinching, and my son had the same thing he was not crying my husband told me that the nurses were pinching is cheeks and cleaning his mouth until he cough to make my story short I was in the hospital for 8 days and my son was released early but we choose him to stay in the hospital with mom and dad, And just like you I don’t really like to talk about my birth story but were are the happy parents of a 1yr healthy baby boy btw Jack is beatiful and you look stunning. GOD bless your little fam. Enjoy the ride because they grow too fast.
You have gotten a man from the Lord. Jack McWaters must be smilin’!!!
What a touching story, and such beautiful baby photos! i’m so glad to hear Jack is doing well, hope you’re feeling stronger every day!
Such a cute and longggggg story 🙂
Holy cow woman what a crazy birth story! Glad everyone pulled through okay. I’ve been following your blog since you first found out you were pregnant, and it’s so amazing to see that little Jack is finally here! Congratulations on a beautiful baby! XO
I am so glad everything worked out okay! He is absolutely adorable!
I am very sorry to hear about your experience, i know how much pain a c section can bring when a natural birth was planned, i hope you can cope. 🙁
Did she break your water?!
Oh Kelly!! I’m so sorry you had such a scary and difficult delivery! But I am oh so thankful for your ending (or should I say, beginning)!! Still praying for your sweet family and now a speedy and full recovery!!
I’ve been to your blog several times but haven’t been back for a while, and I wanted to see if you had your babe! CONGRATS first of all!!! I am so so thankful and grateful for you and everyone that Jack is OK and so are you! What a story you now have to share, this is part of you now…isn’t it crazy what we can endure physically and emotionally even when we don’t expect it? We are so resilient and you seem like you have a great attitude and that you are a survivor! What a thing to go through hon…my birth story was a piece of work but not because of anything like this, if you have time you can read it here…http://contemplatingbeauty.blogspot.com/2011/12/bethlehem.html
Thank you for sharing this with all of us, you are an inspiration!!!! And what a beautiful baby boy! Love the photo/s too!
Congratulations to you and your little family! Jack look so sweet.
Thank you for sharing your story. It sounds quite nerve-wracking but such a sweet end result. As I am entering the third trimester I can only imagine the roller coaster of a ride that it must have been for you. I am so glad for you that everything worked out and wish you a speedy recovery.
Thanks for sharing! I love reading other moms’ birth stories; it’s such a great reminder that the process can be so unexpected and so different for every woman. Trying to keep that in mind as I’m about to deliver #2 in a few weeks… So glad that you and Jack are ok – he is so beautiful!
So glad everyone is ok. I’ve been following your blog for a few months and our story’s are so similar. I had my son March 28th, after being at the hospital 4 hours my cervix started swelling and I had a c-section as well. It was so worth it and life has definitely changed! : ) I love how youre doing monthly letters to him. This is such a sweet time! Congratulations!!
Thanks for sharing your story, I had a similar one too. It really brought me back to my delivery and all those feelings – way to go MAMA, and congrats on your little boy, I have a son too and he melts my heart every day.
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