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LIAM’S BIRTH STORY

I didn’t mean to put off writing this, I just can never find the time and energy so sit down long enough to form sentences and thoughts. Ha I guess that’s what 2 kids will do to ya!

Liam was born on a Sunday just like Jack but it started quite a few days before that. Thursday night I was having some weird pain on my left side, so much that I couldn’t sleep and finally called the hospital. It didn’t feel like contractions, just localized pressing pain. Since I had a C-section with Jack and was attempting a VBAC, they suggested I come in to be on the safe side. It was 2:30am and after I got off the phone I thought I might be overreacting. I laid back down, prayed, and eventually went to sleep. The next morning, the pain was gone and I was relieved I didn’t go in after all. I went on with my Friday normally. By this point I was 4 days overdue.

Saturday was different. I couldn’t tell you when I started having contractions but by 4pm they started to become pretty bad. Since they were so irregular, I thought it would still be awhile. Some would come 20 minutes apart, some every 3 minutes. My parents come over for moral support and we debated when we should go in. Since the contractions were still all over the place, they left and told us to call them when we decided to head to the hospital. Dustin grilled brats and by that time I could barely eat. I told Dustin we should go after dinner was over. Like right after. So we packed up my stuff, got Jack in the car and called my parents to meet us at the hospital. I wanted both my Mom and D there for support and my Dad and sister would take Jack for the night.

By the time we made it to triage, I was in a lot of pain. Even though my contractions were still irregular, they were escalating in pain so I wanted to be checked right away. I had a feeling I was more than a little dilated. After I was changed and hooked up to the monitors in triage, I felt like my water broke. That’s when they started rushing to get a doctor in there to check me. Finally I thought. They checked me and sure enough I was 7 cm dilated! The doctor said she still felt a large sac so my water hadn’t completely broke but I was ready to be admitted! They got my in a room quickly and as soon I started walking to the bed, my water broke completely. Such a weird feeling. I remember freezing out of embarrassment. haha I must’ve had a horrified look on my face, because I remember the nurse telling me it was okay. After getting me back into the bed (through crazy painful contractions that brought me to my knees), they checked me again. Still a 7. The doc said she would be back in 2 hours to check again. 2 hours I thought??? I can’t go 2 more hours with these contractions!

Somehow I did. I declined the epidural but at one point started second guessing myself haha. D and my Mom were so supportive and encouraging. I had an insane amount of back labor so D would press on my back while my Mom would hold my hands and breathe with me. I couldn’t focus on anything expect the pain. I was so tired in between contractions that I couldn’t keep my eyes open. I was so mentally ready to push the baby out that I asked for the doctor to come back and check me before the 2 hours were up. I was 7 cm. My mom suggested some fentanyl for the pain and I agreed. That did little to decrease the mountains of pain those contractions brought. Finally after 2 hours plus, she checked me again. Still a 7. As you remember 7 is the exact number I got stuck at with Jack. I started getting discouraged. It felt like deja-vu. Only this time I didn’t have an epidural. We waited longer and by this time it was close to 11:30pm. They started talking petocin but I knew I didn’t want it. It didn’t help at all with Jack and the risk of rupture is higher. I started thinking about a C-section. Knowing the contractions weren’t bringing me any closer to my baby was so disheartening. I had given the VBAC a fair shot and was done.

My doctor was on board with my decision. Once it was decided and they started prepping, the baby’s heart rate took a dive. They moved the urgency of the C-section from a “Charlie” to a “Beta”. That scared me. Then they started going faster. I didn’t even really know what was going on around me because of the all-consuming pain. Once I was in the OR, they had me lay on my side in order to do the spinal. I wondered how I was going to lay still through the contractions. I remember trying to find SOMEONE’S hand so I could get through the next one. Luckily my nurse was in there. The baby’s heart rate took another dive and I remember one of the doctor’s saying my baby agreed with my decision to do the C-section. When the spinal was in, I immediately felt relief. A flood of warmness filled my body and I completely relaxed. The anesthesiologist team was awesome. This time when they asked if I felt the prick, I didn’t feel it! Phew. That was such a huge fear of mine because of how my epidural went the first time with Jack. The difference was night and day. When they said I would feel a lot of pressure, it was nothing compared to the pressure/burning/pulling I felt with Jack. I heard him cry and one of the doctor’s said he was a healthy 9 pounds! I couldn’t believe it! Then they brought him around the curtain to me, I got to hold him and nurse him. He had so much hair! I couldn’t stop smiling. He was perfect.

Dustin asked me if I was leaning toward a name. It was between 2 and the entire pregnancy we thought it would be one but when I saw him, I thought it should be Liam. I told D hesitantly thinking he still wanted the other one. He surprised me when he said he thought it should be Liam too.:)

Liam Patrick Hicks was born 1 minute after 12:00am on Sunday, June 1st. He has made us a family of four and we praise and thank God for his health and sweetness!

Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord, the fruit of the womb a reward. Psalm 127:3

Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above. James 1:17

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He is such an adorable little boy – congratulations again!

Thanks for sharing your birth story. I am hoping to have a VBAC sometime in the future, but it was a good reminder reading your story to know to hold my plans loosely and do what is needed at the time.

Mary

Oh my GOODNESS, Kelly he is such a cute little boy! His eyes are so big and gorgeous! He and Jack are the cutest babies I’ve ever see! I’m so happy about you and your family! Thanks for sharing with your story! All the best to you and your fam!

Jenna

Thank you for sharing this, Kelly. You’re amazing and so is your beautiful family, Hope to meet Liam soon. xoxo

I know they say that most babies arrive looking like daddy, but this baby looks like his mama! Beautiful! You are so brave for attempting the VBAC and wise for knowing when to say enough. Thank you for sharing his birth story.

DEAR LIAM // 1 MONTH

We’ve made it through 1 month with this little nugget! I can’t believe how much I love and know him already. He is still waking up every 2-3 hours to eat but we did have a 4 hour stretch the other night so I’m hopeful! With Jack I let him naturally fall into a schedule and routine and I will probably do the same with Liam. I think there’s a little less stress that way but I do envy Mamas that set a schedule right away and have their babies sleeping through the night!

Liam overall is a sweet little guy who loves being swaddled, mornings, his play mat, his nuk (when he can keep it in his mouth!!), and being talked to. He gets so still when you talk to him and it’s probably the best thing ever when he coos and smiles back! He is a good eater just like his brother was which leaves me sore often but I am thankful to be able to nurse him exclusively so far. I’m sure I will have to supplement eventually when he starts daycare.

If Liam is crying or upset it’s usually because he wants to go to sleep or he’s not being paid attention to (aka in the car or when I’m helping his brother!). He really does like to be where the action is even though he can’t take part. He is a squirmer and D calls him Houdini because he always seems to get out of his swaddle. The best days are when we get to nap together and I’m trying to cherish this time because I know it will be a blur when I look back on it.

And an outtake! haha

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He is so sweet!! (Just like you said) :) I hope that you guys are doing well and that transitioning from 1 to 2 has gone well. You will definitely need to do a special post with tips about bringing home baby #2. I know I’m a little nervous about bringing the new baby into the picture, and at times it can even seem overwhelming when I think about trying to divide my attention accordingly. Praying for you as you are still recovering and adjusting. -XO, Melissa

PS, I still need to email you back! Sorry!!

What an adorable little guy! And look at all that beautiful dark hair! I’m glad to hear it’s going well!

STYLE TO SUPPORT A CAUSE!

I’m teaming up with Stella & Dot, New Life Family Services, and my girl’s bible study to share some style inspiration today!

My friend Sara is hosting an online Stella & Dot trunk show to sponsor our friend Hilary as she participates in the Walk & Run for Life on Saturday in hopes of raising $10,000 to support New Life Family Services, a MN based nonprofit designed to help empower women in their pregnancy and parenting journey by providing free services, resources and the support of caring professionals. Sara is donating ALL her commission towards New Life Family Services, which means when you shop you are also helping women and supporting our community!

When I heard Sara and Hilary were supporting each other in this way, I loved the idea of using my blog to share daily style to further promote the cause! Not only do the six of us support each other on a weekly basis as we navigate the adventure of parenting toddlers and newborns, but now we can do that in a greater and bigger way as we support mothers in our community who may feel they have no support and no options. Mamas who need to know that we care. This is our way of doing that and it goes to show that we can all use what talents and influence we have to impact others in non-traditional ways. It’s so fun watching it happen amongst my friends. Mamas are one of the strongest forces in the world, and I love working together to support other mothers in this way.

I’m wearing… Jackie link bracelet, Amelie sparkle bracelet in peach, & On the mark necklace.

Hilary’s wearing… Rory necklace, Somervell necklace in gold, Christina link bracelet & renegade bracelet.

Autumn’s wearing… Silver elodie, How does she do it purse in red ikat.

Sara’s wearing… Engravable necklace, Foundation bracelet, Love bracelet, & Guilded arrow bracelet.

Laura’s wearing… Capri cotton wrap, How does she do it purse in navy stripe, & Renegade bracelet.

Hannah’s wearing… Interlock cross necklace, Sahara pendant, & Renegade bracelet.

And all of us! Go here to order the Stella & Dot pieces or email Sara at sarajmurphy@hotmail.com. And go here to support the Walk for Life and be sure to watch Hilary’s inspiring video!

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MORE OR LESS

More… afternoons in the pool. Less… screen time.

More… picnics in the park. Less… laundry.

More… morning cuddles in jammies. Less… feeling guilty about it.

More… naps with Liam. Less… worrying about the dishes.

More… moments. Less… to dos.

More… playdates. Less… isolation.

More… deep breaths. Less… frustration.

More… grace. Less… judgement.

More… smiles. Less… stress.

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Love this Kelly!

More is always better when your list looks like that. Hope you are adjusting to being a family of four. Congratulations again on your new addition. He is absolutely adorable

kellyhicks

Thank you Megan! Adjusting is the key word :) But we are good!!

Oh I love this! Music to a new momma’s ears.
:)

Olivia

Amen!!!

Meredith N

Totally. Thanks for the reminder!

Good list. Adorable baby!

WELCOME HOME LIAM

I finally found the time (and motivation!) to sit down and write my first official blog post since bringing Liam home. I think I picked up my “real” camera just once and these are the shots I got one morning. How sweet is Jack with him? He seems to love his baby brother, at least so far!

Liam is now 11 days old and had his 2nd checkup this morning. He now weighs 9 lbs 6 ounces so is now past his birth weight. Good job little big man! He seems pretty laid back so far but has definitely had his fussy times too – usually during feeding time. Even though I breastfed with Jack, it’s still been a learning process for both Liam and I. Although I will say it has been a lot easier this time around. I used to cry every time before Jack would feed from the soreness and pain. It was probably one of the hardest things I’ve done but I’m so glad we stuck it out because this time has been much easier.

Luckily since Liam was born, I’ve had a lot of help between D and my Mom. Next week though will be all me with both boys. Jack isn’t going to daycare while I’m on maternity leave so this will be a huge transition for all of us – going from full-time working Mama to full-time stay-at-home Mama to 2 (well until August when I go back to work). Lots of grace will be required of myself and the boys:)I’ll have to refer back to this list many times! While I feel overwhelmed by it all, I’m hoping and praying to make the summer fun and memorable. Hopefully I will find time to document a lot of it on here too. I know they don’t stay little long!

Here’s some reminders to myself from my IG friends during this overwhelming, wonderful, terrifying time:

  • Recite the Lord’s prayer.
  • Lower expectations.
  • Breathe.
  • Forget yesterday’s troubles. Start each day fresh.
  • Remember it gets easier.
  • Soak up every precious moment.

Keep them coming friends:)

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Mary

Oh my! Love it it’s the best! You’re officially the greatest mom ! Congrats(again)! I’m super happy for you and your family! Good job Kelly your boys are gorgeous!

Olivia

They are both so precious Kelly!!

ownn Kelly, your boys are so gorgeous, I’m so glad for you and for all your family. Congrats and God bless you all

You are a GREAT mommy, don’t forget that one :) Sometimes I am harder on myself than anyone else is. Both of those boys are beautiful! Congratulations!

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